It’s the perfect time to reflect on the year, now we are past the frenetic Christmas rush. Many people are off work this week and have some time to pause, take stock, and plot a new course.
Like a ship in port, sometimes we need to look at what cargo we are carrying, and work out what we would like to add to our inventory. We may need to make physical repairs, cosmetic improvements, or perhaps there is inner work to be done. Perhaps the engine needs greasing, or the mind needs cleaning, maybe motivation needs stoking and maps pored over, to plot new and exciting journeys. Continue reading New Year – Resolutions, Reflections, and Random Acts of Kindness
We all compare ourselves to others, indeed, the people we know are usually the yardstick against which we measure ourselves. Whether our priorities are looking good, being wealthy, being kind, or being happy, we can all find people if not in our direct contact, in the eye of the media, to whom we find it hard to measure up.
I am reminded of the gap between what the artist can see in his mind, and what he is capable of producing. There is often the same gap in terms of who we are, and who we want to be. Continue reading Beat Yourself Up? Parameters, Neuroplasticity and The Fire
I had an experience of some difficult or painful emotions over the weekend. There is no need to go into the story around the emotions, suffice to say that it led me to seek out ways to change the way I was feeling. I chose to do this through food, having given up anything else I could possibly use!
I know the theories, I understand that food or anything else cant help, or change the feeling. I wanted comfort, I wanted avoidance, from some painful feelings.
So I acted out, and promptly felt even worse, frustrated with myself and sad. So eventually I did what I should have done straight away, I turned towards it. Continue reading Flow, and The Changing of Difficult Emotions
Taking and giving. In meditation one visualises breathing in the sufferings of the world, and breathing out relief, or happiness. It is a training in altruism. This meditation will reduce selfish attachment, increase a sense of renunciation, create good karma by giving, and to develop and expand loving-kindness and bodhicitta. All six perfections are involved – giving, ethics, patience, joyous effort, concentration, and wisdom. Continue reading Tonglen – Gently Beheading the Ego
Sometimes in life or in meditation there is suffering.
Loneliness. Feeling trapped. Feeling lost, confused. Unhappiness, feeling unfulfilled, something is not quite right. Continue reading Transformation of Suffering – Re-Wiring Self-Cherishing and Opening Out